I Wish More People Knew These 6 Things About Grief

As a Grief Educator and Psychic-Medium, I often sit with people navigating some of the hardest moments of their lives. The moments of loss, longing, and love that hasn't had a place to land since someone so near and dear has crossed over.

Grief is deeply personal, yet so misunderstood. That’s why I started reflecting on this simple, powerful prompt: “I wish more people knew…”

These are six things I wish the world understood about grief. As David Kessler, reminds us, “We live in a grief-illiterate society.” Through my work, my wish is to educate more people about grief one conversation, one heart, and one soul at a time.

1. I wish more people understood that grief has no timeline.

There is no deadline or expiration date for missing someone. Grief isn’t something you “get over." It's something you learn to carry, and grow through over time. The feeling of grief shifts and changes. Whether it’s been six months or six years, your love is still real, and so is your pain. Healing happens in layers, not on a schedule.

2. I wish more people felt safe to say their loved one’s name out loud.

There’s nothing wrong with talking about someone who’s passed. In fact, it’s a beautiful way to keep their spirit present. Don’t be afraid to say their name. You’re not holding on too tightly you’re honoring a bond that doesn’t end. Ask them what their favorite memory is of their loved one in Heaven.

3. I wish more people knew their loved ones are still listening.

As a Medium, I can assure you: just because you can’t see them doesn’t mean they’re not near. Their love, guidance and reassurance is closer than ever. Love is energy. That energy doesn’t disappear. It transforms. Your loved ones in Spirit are still around you, often sending signs and nudges when you need them most. Acknowledge the signs and say thank you and I love you to your loved one in Heaven when you receive a sign. By acknowledging the signs you start to receive and see more of them. I promise.

Two hands gently exchange a bright red heart against a warm, glowing sunset, symbolizing love and kindness.

4. I wish more people knew they don’t have to grieve alone.

So many people suffer in silence, thinking their grief is too heavy to share. But you deserve support. Whether it's through friends, community, spiritual connection, or sessions like mine, healing is not something you're meant to do alone.

5. I wish more people knew grief isn’t a problem to fix, but a love to carry.

Grief is love that no longer has a physical home. It’s not something wrong with you. It’s something precious you’re holding. Let that love move through you. Let it soften you. Let it teach you. Allow yourself to feel all the emotions.

6. I wish more people knew how to truly show up for someone in grief.

Sometimes it’s not about having the right words. it’s about being willing to sit in the silence with someone who’s hurting. We call this "holding space" for someone. A kind presence, a listening ear (not offering any advice), a simple text, a willingness to remember the person they lost. That’s what support really looks like.

You’re Not Alone

If these words resonate with you, please know this: you are not alone. Your grief is valid. Your connection to your loved one still exists. Love never dies, and you’re allowed to feel, heal, and honor that love in your own time.

💗 Let's help more hearts feel seen. If you know someone who might need these words today, please share this post with them. Sometimes the smallest act of care can reach a heart that’s quietly breaking.