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Writer's pictureDebbie Squizzero

Understanding "Grief Brain “A Real and Common Experience

Grief is an overwhelming and deeply personal journey. One of the lesser known but very real aspects of this process is something often referred to as "grief brain." This term describes the mental fog, forgetfulness, and cognitive struggles many people experience after a significant loss. If you’ve felt confused, easily distracted, or like your memory isn’t what it used to be, you are not alone—and there’s a reason for it.


What Are the Symptoms of Grief Brain? Grief brain can manifest in various ways. Common symptoms include:

  • Forgetfulness or trouble remembering simple things

  • Difficulty concentrating or focusing on tasks

  • Feeling scattered, confused, or disoriented

  • Mental fatigue and lack of clarity

  • Increased irritability or frustration when trying to think clearly


These symptoms are not just a result of emotional overwhelm but also linked to how grief affects our brain. Grief triggers a stress response that can impact cognitive functioning, like how trauma and anxiety disrupt brain processing.


Coping with Grief Brain While it can be frustrating, there are ways to manage and cope with grief brain:


  • Be gentle with yourself: Give yourself permission to feel the way you do. Your brain is processing deep emotional pain, and it’s okay to not function at full capacity.


  • Take breaks: Don’t expect to handle as much as you normally would. Allow time to rest, recharge, and decompress when needed.


  • Write things down: Keeping a notebook or making lists can help you stay organized and reduce the pressure on your memory.


  • Engage in mindfulness or meditation: These practices can help calm the mind and bring a sense of focus back, even if for a short while. Taking a walk or being out in nature is also very calming to the nervous system during this time of trauma and pain.



  • Lean on support systems: Whether it’s talking to friends, family, or a grief counselor, expressing your feelings can provide relief. There are also online resources and grief support groups where you can connect with others experiencing similar struggles. David Kessler hosts an online grief support group called Tender Hearts. It’s approximately 38$ per month. You can check out the details on his website: grief.com


Grief Brain Is Temporary While it may seem overwhelming, remember that grief brain is temporary. As you continue to process your loss and move through your grief, the cognitive fog will start to lift. It’s important to be patient with yourself during this time and know that healing comes at its own pace.

If you or someone you know is struggling with the cognitive effects of grief, seeking professional support can make a significant difference. You are not alone on this journey, and there is no shame in needing extra help during a difficult time. Compassion and self-care are essential as you navigate this challenging process.

 

 

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